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What Does “Women’s Empowerment” Mean?

What does “Women’s Empowerment” mean to you?

Think of the successful and powerful women you know. What attributes do all of these women have in common? What I see most often are: Bravery, education, contribution, and financial freedom. The phrase ’empowered woman’ always brings me back to the writing of Pamela Redmond Satran, “A Woman Should Have.” I think it’s also important to recognize the most important element of becoming empowered: Freedom.

Women who are truly empowered have authority over their lives. They are not dictated by anyone or any circumstance.
Empowered women first believe they are powerful (capable), and then become so through their unwavering FAITH, actions and personal financial wealth. They are able to create their own story at any time because they CAN. Having faith that you CAN, and then creating the means in which to stand on your own, to me, is a defining truth of women’s empowerment.

I’m not talking about the wealth of your husband, nor the shared finances between a husband and wife. I’m referring to your own money, (created by your own job or career) and a bank account with just your name on it. How many married women do you know who have their own bank account —with only their name on it?

The first thing a woman can do for her self-empowerment is to have her own bank account. It isn’t wrong, it isn’t weird and it isn’t a sign that she isn’t committed to her marriage.

I get it. Not all of us are designed to be business owners or entrepreneurs. Not all of us are financial whizzes or Suze Orman’s. But we need to learn and understand the importance of a healthy relationship with money. Once we get a handle on our personal finances, we are going to find more options than we ever imagined and a lot fewer obstacles in our path.

The excerpt is taken from ‘Girl Power’, due to release March 2019⠀⠀⠀⠀

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15 Reasons Why Coco Chanel Was Successful in Business

Coco Chanel was an exceptional woman who became one of the most influential designers in the fashion world, and eventually one of the most successful businesswomen of all time. When I think of her, I imagine her to be this driven, independent, slightly withdrawn and cranky woman.

Abandoned by her father when she was a girl, and raised in a convent probably emphasized her need for self-sufficiency. She never wanted to have a man in her life out of financial need, although she was accepting of the help she received along the way from the male suitors in her life.  I find her life to be somewhat vague in a few places, but one doesn’t have to look too hard to see that Coco Chanel was a successful woman. Here’s why:

  1. She had a #NoFucksGiven attitude. “I don’t care what you think about me.  I don’t think about you at all”. She didn’t really care what people thought. Period.
  2. Authenticity. “A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.” She wanted to be who she wanted to be, and she wanted to do what she wanted to do. She did not waste her time or energy living her life to be what other people wanted her to be.
  3. No negative self-talk. “Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.”  She believed in herself beyond belief. She knew she was talented and had every bit of opportunity as the next person.  She didn’t let negative self-talk dictate her life.
  4. “My life didn’t please me, so I created my life.” She didn’t let her past create her future.  Although she grew up in an orphanage, she knew her life story was waiting to be written. She never let her humble beginnings be her obstacle, but rather her driving force to create the life she wanted.
  5. She had other people’s interests in mind. “I wanted to give a woman comfortable clothes that would flow with her body. A woman is closest to being naked when she is well-dressed.”
    She wasn’t afraid of taking risks, nor did she let people intimidate her or sway her creative direction. Coco created clothes she wanted to wear, she created clothing that she knew women wanted.  Her ideas were radical for the times and there were many people who didn’t understand the way she did things, but she remained true to her visions and stuck with it. (And it paid off!)
  6. “I don’t do fashion, I AM fashion.” She believed in her craft, she embodied her work, heart and soul. Quality and personal creativity were one of her top priorities. She wasn’t going to sell her soul just for the sake of higher profits. Her name was attached to every piece she made, and she was known for a relentless drive for perfection, whether in construction, design or fit. She had a strong opinion in all matters of style and class, and stood behind her creations with personal responsibility and authority.
  7. “Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. ” She knew when to let go.  When her life wasn’t taking the shape she wanted, she knew how to recognize it, let go and move on -even if it meant letting go of a cushy life. She wasn’t one to waste time and energy beating a wall and waiting for it to turn into a window.
  8. “The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
    Speak up.  She was not afraid to speak her mind.  There was probably never a question of Coco’s position or opinion on something.
  9. “It’s probably not just by chance that I’m alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me, unless he’s terribly strong.”
    Independence was very important to her, and she knew her emotional limitations. She knew that living a life where she had to compromise what she truly wanted, meant she wouldn’t have her freedom.  For Coco, being with a man out of need was not an option.  She was hellbent on making it on her own, or not at all. Once her business became financially successful without the help of Boy Capel, she stated in an interview, “I was my own master, and I depended on myself alone”.
  10. She believed in magic. If you visit Coco’s apartment in Paris, it is as it was when she lived there: lucky symbols are everywhere, such as a frog with its mouth open and a crystal placed inside (a symbol of love, luck, money, and health), pairs of Japanese deer and wheat motifs (a sign of prosperity) are scattered across the apartment. She believed in the healing power of crystals, so there are crystal chandeliers in every room.  Lions are also scattered throughout, a reference to her Leo star sign. Mirrors placed on the walls were designed to be octagonal in shape, which was also significant. The shape of the stopper for the Chanel No. 5 perfume bottle was also an octagon, and even the number “5” of her perfume has a special meaning in Numerology. The number 5 is the most dynamic and energetic of all the single-digit numbers. It is unpredictable, always in motion and constantly in need of change. Sometimes believing in the magic that we possess will get us over humps when we feel like quitting.
  11. “There is nothing worse than solitude. Solitude can help a man realize himself, but it destroys a woman.”
    She believed in surrounding herself with inspirational and like-minded friends. She befriended artists such as Picasso, Dali, Diaghilev, Stravinsky, Cocteau, Jean Renoir, Visconti – all of whom she collaborated with.  Find your “tribe”, and you will watch wonders unfold creatively. 
  12. “There is a time for work and a time for love. That leaves no other time.”
    She knew how to manage her time and energy to suit her own goals. She knew what was most important to her and she neither deviated from that or tried to combine them all. As a businesswoman, Coco wasn’t one to waste valuable resources with endeavors that did not serve her higher purpose. Her only focus in life was her vision, her brand, her company (and occasionally love).
  13. Chanel was focused on her dream.  Don’t be afraid to be a little selfish. When we feel spent, and our venture is failing, we have to look at our life and see where our daily energies are going.  Chances are, you probably aren’t devoting enough of your time to what YOU want to do, because you’re too busy trying to create something for someone else, or you’re just doing too much.  Focus on the one thing you want to accomplish, and don’t be afraid to tell others “I’m sorry, I just don’t have the bandwidth.”
  14. “Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance.”
    Simplicity without “decision fatigue”.  Coco was known for her simple, but elegant design aesthetic. She didn’t overcomplicate her designs because that just wasn’t who she was.  Most days, Coco wore black, because it was simple, elegant and easy.  She was (back then) what we now call the “Capsule Movement Wardrobe”.  It’s the trait of highly successful people such as Mark Zuckerberg and Barack Obama. In an interview, President Obama stated, “I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.” In a 1969 interview with Micheline Sandrel, Chanel was asked, “You have this suit, this Chanel on you, what else do you have nowadays in your own wardrobe?” Coco Chanel: Two suits I’ve had for three years, a beige one and the one I wore yesterday, with a small pattern, three is good.
  15. “In order to be irreplaceable one must be different” Don’t spend so much time trying to do what’s working for others, or do what you think will sell. Follow your passion, explore your own talents and ideas, no matter how different they may seem from the mainstream. Carve your own path.  After all, there was only one Coco and there is only one YOU.  Perhaps you are here for that very purpose.